Sensitive Creatives interviews: Songwriter and podcaster Andy Mort

Sensitive Creatives interviews: Songwriter and podcaster Andy Mort

When I first read Andy’s About me-page, I was amazed, because his story was so similar to my own. And we share the same mission of inspiring and empowering other sensitive and introverted creatives to live fulfilling lives.

Andy Mort is a songwriter, podcaster and leader of gentle rebels with his online community The Haven. He speaks with such warmth and honesty about the many aspects of being a sensitive introvert and a creative in a world that's often overwhelming and misunderstanding.

And today, I feel grateful to have him here and share his insights with you!

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It's finally here: Design Your Dream Job - The highly sensitive creative's guide to becoming their own boss

It's finally here: Design Your Dream Job - The highly sensitive creative's guide to becoming their own boss
"I'm too sensitive to hold a regular job."
"My boss and co-workers don't understand my introversion."
"I know I'm meant for something more creative, I just don't know what."

Ever since I started this blog, these questions have been prominent in my inbox and comments field. And to be totally honest, it has given me a kind of relief. It means I'm not alone. I'm not the only one who's been struggling for many years finding my ideal career, enduring a traditional 9-5 job and defending my introverted and sensitive ways to my bosses and co-workers.

Finding our ideal career obviously seems to be the most difficult and anxiety inducing challenge for us introverted and/or highly sensitive creatives. We have a hard time fitting into most regular jobs, and while entrepreneurship might be an attractive alternative, many sensitive introverts have fears and negative preconceptions about starting their own business.

I decided to do something about that. 

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Sensitive Creatives interviews: Agnes Gällhagen of Cashew Kitchen

Sensitive Creatives interviews: Agnes Gällhagen of Cashew Kitchen

I’m so excited to introduce a new series here on the blog: The Sensitive Creatives interview sessions, where I interview other highly sensitive, introverted and creative entrepreneurs to get their best insights, stories and advice.

First up, my dear friend and colleague: Blogger, food stylist and photographer Agnes Gällhagen of Cashew Kitchen.

Agnes is a wild hearted & quietly rule breaking solopreneur from Sweden, who cooks amazing plant based food and takes the most dreamy photos of it.

Visiting her blog is like taking a virtual vacation to a cabin in the woods. Like, I can actually feel my pulse slowing down just by looking at her photos.

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February Link Love: Facebook phreaks, focus weeks and creative writing angst

February Link Love: Facebook phreaks, focus weeks and creative writing angst

Time for a new segment on OhSoSensitive!

I thought I’d start sharing more of all of the amazing and inspiring stuff that I read, that I think you’d be interested in as well. While also sending some link love to well-deserving people. ❤️

So from now on, at the end of each month, I will put together a collection of the most helpful and inspiring stuff I've read or watched that month. Let's kick it off, shall we?

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Why highly sensitive introverts make great entrepreneurs

Why highly sensitive introverts make great entrepreneurs

When you hear the word “entrepreneur”, what images come to mind? Do you maybe see a young, male, extroverted, hyper-energetic, highly educated person running from meeting to meeting and speaking on big stages?

This is a very common stereotype. And sure, a lot of entrepreneurs fit this image. They are the ones who are comfortable enough being in the spotlight and therefor, they are the ones everybody else sees in the media. 

But there are many different types of entrepreneurship - and entrepreneurs. A lot of them are rarely seen in public. They thrive in the shadows, so to speak, and are very happy (and successful) doing so. 

Today, thanks to technology and the internet, basically anyone can become an entrepreneur. It’s cheap, the barriers-of-entry are low and the playing field is leveled. You don’t need an education. And you certainly don’t have to be extroverted. 

The silent and sensitive type can make an awesome business person, if they have the right mindset, tools and ideas. And if you are highly sensitive/introverted, and are held back from starting your own business due to fears and insecurities - this post is for you!

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Thoughts on pre-launching a book, creating your own career and being scared shitless (in a good way)

Thoughts on pre-launching a book, creating your own career and being scared shitless (in a good way)

Last Sunday, I made my upcoming book project official. I gave it a name, outlined its contents and put up a page for it on the site. I told my Secret Club friends about it in an email. Pre-orders started coming in. Some with the most loving, heartfelt comments that made me cry tears of joy. 

Then I looked at my calendar and freaked out. I’ve dreamt of writing a book all my life. But it has somehow always been this fog shrouded goal in the distant future. Now, all of a sudden, things got real. There is a deadline. I am accountable. 

This feels so wonderfully terrifying

I will work harder than I ever have these coming weeks and I’m going to love every second of it. This is a job I chose for myself. 

And (not so) coincidentally enough, this is what the book I’m writing is all about.

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Quitting social media: A 1-month update

Quitting social media: A 1-month update

It’s been roughly a month since my proclaimed social media detox. I figured maybe an update is in order.

Quick recap: Back in January, I wrote this post. In it, I explained why I made the decision to drastically cut back on my use of social media, and how I was planning on doing it. 

I wasn’t quitting on impulse. The thought had percolated in my mind for months, and my interest in social media had steadily declined since October. Before the Christmas holidays, I posted my last picture on Instagram, urging people to put down their screens, stay present and enjoy spending time with their loved ones.

I followed my own advice, and then I simply didn’t want to go back. It felt way too good to just relieve myself of the pressure of having to constantly check and update my channels. To no longer have to find stuff to photograph, come up with snappy captions, stay up to date with everyone else’s feeds and be active in the exchange of shallow likes and comments.

In hindsight, not only has minimizing social media use made me more present, focused, productive, happy, peaceful and creative. I’ve found that the benefits I thought I gained from social media, and my fears around leaving it, were mostly illusions. 

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Read this if you hate your job

Read this if you hate your job

As you can tell from the title of this post, I’m making a few blunt assumptions about you. 

I imagine that you are currently in a job you are not happy with. One that you might in fact hate. Maybe you are on your way there right now, wishing you could just turn back around and go home again. 

If this is you, I know exactly how you’re feeling. I’ve felt this way many, many times in my life. 

I’ve had jobs where I’ve cried in the elevator up to the office every morning. Jobs where I’ve drunk copious amounts of water and coffee so that I could take frequent (and embarrassingly long) bathroom breaks. Jobs where I’ve felt so excruciatingly bored/stressed out/miserable that I’ve faked illnesses and literally escaped in the middle of the day. 

I’ve sat on so many buses, trains and subways on my way to or from work, with dead eyes, wondering if this is what the rest of my life will be like: early mornings and tired afternoons squeezed in-between strangers with that same glazed-over look in their eyes.
Wondering if they are thinking the same thing, or if it’s just me. If I’m just overly sensitive. If I should just suck it up and be thankful that I at least have a job to go to. 

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Open letter from your introverted girlfriend (or boyfriend)

Open letter from your introverted girlfriend (or boyfriend)

Hi, it’s me. You introverted girlfriend.

She who used to want to be with you night and day when we first fell in love, but now would rather spend her weekend home alone playing video games and eating pizza while maybe chatting with you on Skype if you’re lucky.

She who will avoid eye contact with you for an entire day, and then suddenly jump into your arms and shower you with kisses like nothing happened.

She who asks you what your plans for the weekend are, and can barely hide her excitement when you say you’ll have to go away on a boring business trip.

She who whispers that she wants to spend the rest of her life with you, but gets all quiet when you mention moving in together.

I have a few confessions to make...

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Want to enhance your intuition, creativity and wellbeing? Start a journaling practice

Want to enhance your intuition, creativity and wellbeing? Start a journaling practice

I am in love with my journal. Journaling has been an invaluable tool for guiding my path, shaping my life and healing my wounds. I don't know what I'd do without it. 

I never really thought of myself as the journaling type of person. Growing up, “keeping a journal” commonly meant having one of those pretty little hardcover diaries with a lock and key and starting every entry with the words “Dear Diary…” I was never that excited about documenting my life. I had better things to do.

But in my early twenties I found myself drawn to journaling for very concrete reasons. To complain about my life. 

My writing at this time was sporadic, with long stretches of time in-between entries. But when I did write, it was in intense bursts of inspiration. (And with “inspiration”, I mean desperation and despair.)

I used my notebooks to lament and to ruminate. Usually on relationship related, “why does he not answer my texts”-kind of topics. I poured all of my angst onto the pages and it felt really good, like seeing a therapist. Some days, if in a particularly dark place, I would write for hours and hours. I wrote until a shift happened in me. Another voice took over my pen and this voice always had very clear-headed advice to offer.

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Why I'm quitting social media

Why I'm quitting social media

As a blogger and online entrepreneur, the value of social media has always been apparent to me. But I haven't reflected much on the price of this perceived value. What are the negative impacts of it on my life, and is it worth it? Today, I'm making a radical decision. I'm quitting social media. Here's why and how.  

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The joys of being highly sensitive

The joys of being highly sensitive

When I’ve written about sensitivity in this blog, a lot of it has been about the shame, the struggles and the disadvantages of being highly sensitive in everyday life. 

But what about the upsides to being HSP. Are there any, and are we really taking advantage of them? I can honestly say that, despite the hardships and pain I occasionally experience as a direct result of being highly sensitive, I would not trade away my sensitivity for anything. 
I am proud of it and I deeply cherish it.

So I thought I’d share some of my own favorite strengths, gifts and simple pleasures related to being highly sensitive...

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How to get (and lose) an eating disorder in 3 simple steps: Louise's #RealDietStory

How to get (and lose) an eating disorder in 3 simple steps: Louise's #RealDietStory

#RealDietStory is an initiative started by Renée at WillFrolicForFood. I found out about it in an email from a blog friend of mine, Agnes at Cashew Kitchen. She shared a story with her email subscribers about her struggle with food, eating and body image. (You can read it in her blog as well.)

This story really resonated with me, and Renée’s as well. I have written similar pieces in my Swedish blog, but now I’m rewriting my story here.

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Why me and my partner sleep in separate bedrooms, (and other truths about introverts in romantic relationships)

Why me and my partner sleep in separate bedrooms, (and other truths about introverts in romantic relationships)

Learning to share a home with a partner while maintaining my health and sanity has taken me a lot of years. Everything changed when me and my fiancé moved to a bigger apartment and I got a room of my own. And with that room, a bed of my own. Yup, me and my boyfriend sleeps in separate rooms and it is the best thing that has happened to our relationship. Allow me to explain why...

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5 things I used to be ashamed of as a highly sensitive introvert, (and 3 that still embarrass me)

5 things I used to be ashamed of as a highly sensitive introvert, (and 3 that still embarrass me)

Being a highly sensitive person can come with a great deal of shame and embarrassment. So it did for me, until I learned to embrace my personality and be more casual about it. Here are 5 things about my sensitivity that I used to be ashamed of, but no longer are. (And 3 that still embarrass me, but in a fun way.)

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Information sickness, chronic distraction and the art of deep work

Information sickness, chronic distraction and the art of deep work

For quite some time, I’ve had this uneasy feeling. A lurking suspicion that my internet and tech habits have done something to my brain. Something I don’t like. And when I read the book “Deep Work: Rules For Focused Success In A Distracted World“, written by researcher and author Cal Newport, I understood what was wrong. I had become chronically distracted, and I needed to do something about it. 

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10 effective self-care rituals for stressed out, overwhelmed highly sensitives

10 effective self-care rituals for stressed out, overwhelmed highly sensitives

As a highly sensitive person in an age of technology, information overload and massive distraction, I’ve found that I need serious self-care regime. For many of us, everyday life demands that we sit in front of a screen, feeling mostly like a brain hovering in mid-air, disconnected from our body, our senses and our humanity. No wonder we get stressed out and overwhelmed. We need daily rituals that bring us back into physical reality.

Here are my top 10 self-care practices...

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16 times when it sucked being a highly sensitive introvert in the workplace

16 times when it sucked being a highly sensitive introvert in the workplace

There's a good reason I'm now self-employed and will never ever hold a regular job againHighly sensitive creatives just don't fit into most workplaces. Believe me, I've tried. I've had my fair share of employments. I've worked in a wide variety of places. I have had amazing colleagues and exciting projects. But I've also had a lot of struggle.

Here are 16 times when it sucked to be a highly sensitive introvert at work...

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